学习流程:Input (理解) → Digest (内化) → Practice (模仿) → Output (表达) Input(听+读):透过文章理解职场中的「过劳 (Burnout)」与「被动反应 (Reacting)」,学习如何用英文描述「设定界线 (Setting Boundaries)」与「优先级 (Priorities)」。 Digest(思考+吸收):反思你的工作模式——是永远在救火的「反应型」,还是懂得拒绝的「策略型」?学习用 delegate, urgent, productive 等字精准表达。 Practice(模仿+跟读):利用文末的 “Daily Expression” 句型,练习用自然口语描述你的工作节奏与压力管理。 Output(自我表达):使用 State → Do → Feel 模版,试着说出你理想中的高效工作日是什么样子。 Main Idea — 本篇核心: 真正的效率不是做得更多,而是做真正重要的事。 本篇将带你探讨如何在忙碌的职场体系中找回专注,并介绍两本经典效率书的核心工具:《The ONE Thing》与《Getting Things Done (GTD)》。 你将学会用英文表达「深度工作 (Deep Work)」、「分派任务 (Delegate)」以及如何在压力中保持「清晰 (Clarity)」。 点选左上角按钮可以切换文字全英or双语 How I Survive My Workday…
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013 Why “How to Talk to Anyone” Doesn’t Work for Everyone? 为什么「跟谁都能聊」不适合内向者?
学习流程:Input (理解) → Digest (内化) → Practice (模仿) → Output (表达) Input(听+读):理解东西方沟通文化的差异,学习用英文描述「尴尬 (Awkward)」、「破冰 (Ice-breaker)」与「共同点 (Common Ground)」。 Digest(思考+吸收):如果你是内向者,如何不强迫自己装外向,也能自在聊天?学习用 curious, genuine, observe 等字建立真实连结。 Practice(模仿+跟读):利用文中的 “Practice Zone”,针对同一主题练习四种不同亲疏远近的问法(Do you / Have you / Would you)。 Output(自我表达):试着选一句你觉得最自然的开场白,在下次对话中实际用出来。 Main Idea — 本篇核心: 好的对话不是靠「话术」,而是靠「好奇心」。 本篇将挑战经典书《跟任何人都可以聊得来》的美式观点,提供更适合内向者与亚洲文化的沟通策略。 你将学会如何用「观察代替逼问」,并掌握英文提问的黄金法则:从 Are you (状态) 到 Do you (习惯),再到 Would you (邀请)。 点选左上角按钮可以切换文字全英or双语 You know what? I’ve read…
015 [Grammar] When We Use the Passive Voice in English? | 什么时候该用「被动语态」?
学习路径:听懂 → 熟悉 → 察觉 → 自然说出 Input(听+读): 这一篇不是从文法开始,而是从你早就听过的英文开始。 透过反复听与阅读,你会发现:被动语态并不陌生,它一直存在于新闻、职场邮件、故事里——只是我们以前没有注意到它在「做什么」。 Digest(慢慢内化): 当你听到这些句子时,试着留意一个问题: 说话的人,为什么选择这样说? 是想让事情看起来更客观?更礼貌? 还是把注意力放在「发生了什么」,而不是「谁做的」? Practice(对照与模仿): 文末的练习不是考试,而是对照。 你会看到同一句话,用主动或被动说出来,语气如何悄悄改变。 不用背规则,只要反复听、反复对照,让语感自己形成。 Output(自然出现): 当你开始在邮件、报告,或叙述一件事时, 如果某些被动句「自己跑出来了」,那就对了。 这不是刻意使用,而是你已经听懂英文在什么时候会这样说。 Main Idea — 本篇核心: 被动语态不是用来让句子变复杂, 而是让说话的人有空间选择: 要强调谁?要隐藏谁? 要让语气变得更中性、更柔软,或更有距离感? 这一篇,会陪你听懂被动语态在英文里真正扮演的角色, 而不是要你记住它。 点选左上角按钮可以切换文字全英or双语 您的瀏覽器不支援音訊播放。 You know, in English, we sometimes use the passive voice. That means we change the sentence so the focus is…
010 [Grammar] Becoming Visible Again — 找回被生活模糊的自己
如果你一路读到这里,可能会有点意外:
为什么在这些关于生活习惯、关于表达自己的主题之后,我突然放进了一篇「文法」相关的内容?
这不是因为我想要你开始背文法规则。
而是因为,当主题从「生活表面」慢慢走向心理状态、经历了什么、情绪如何变化时,
时态,开始变得非常重要。
英语里的时态,不只是时间点的差别,它其实在告诉别人:
—— 这件事已经过去了?
—— 还是还在影响你?
—— 你是当时很煎熬,但现在已经走出来,
—— 还是表面正常,内在却还在消耗?
比如,同样是「崩溃」,
I fell apart last year.
听起来像是:那是一段已经结束的经历。
但如果你说:
I have been falling apart lately.
语气就完全不同了——
它在告诉对方:这不是回忆,而是仍在发生的状态。
这也是为什么,从这一篇开始,
我会在文章后面多加一个「文法解析」的音频。
不是为了教你规则,
而是帮你了解:
英语是如何用时态,精确地表达心理状态的。
如果你也想用英语,
更贴近地说出自己的状态、经历与转变,
那这些文法,就不再是负担,而会变成一种支持。
点选左上角按钮可以切换文字全英or双语
这篇文的音讯檔(mp3)分成2个,一个是主文,一个是文法解析.
主文MP3
文法解析MP3
Paragraph 1 — The Invisible Routine
For years, I’ve been taking care of everyone else — my family, my colleagues, my friends. I know their schedules, their moods, even the kind of tea they prefer when they’re tired. But somewhere along the way, I lost the habit of asking myself what I really need. It’s strange — how you can be surrounded by people and still forget that you exist too.
多年來,我一直在照顾别人——我的家人、同事、朋友。我熟悉他们的时间表、情绪,甚至知道他们疲倦时喜欢哪一种茶。
但在这段路上,不知不觉地,我忘了问自己:「我真正需要的是什么?」很奇怪,明明被人群包围,却能慢慢忘记,自己也是需要被看见的人。
Grammar & Idiom Box.
◆ I’ve been taking care of → 现在完成进行式:从过去持续到现在的状态。很多人会写成 I took care of everyone for years,但这样时态错,→ 变成「过去已结束」。少了 至今仍持续 的概念,英语中,「时间跨度」要用完成式。
◆ take care of = 照顾、处理实际事务;care 单用仅指情感关心。
◆ be surrounded by people → 被人群包围,by 表动作来源。
文法解析,
In Paragraph 1, The Invisible Routine, let’s talk about the grammar used in this part. The first sentence says, “I’ve been taking care of everyone else.” This tense is called the present perfect continuous — have been plus verb-ing. We use it when something started in the past and is still happening now. So if you say “I took care of everyone,” it means it’s over, it’s done. But “I’ve been taking care of everyone” means you started before, and you’re still doing it today. That’s why this tense carries a feeling of time span or continuation.
在第一段《The Invisible Routine》里,我们来讲一下这一段用到的语法。第一句是:“I’ve been taking care of everyone else.” 这里用的是现在完成进行时,也就是 have been + 动词-ing。它用来表达:某件事从过去开始,一直持续到现在仍在发生。所以如果你说 “I took care of everyone”,听起来像是“这件事已经结束了”。但 “I’ve been taking care of everyone” 的意思是:你早就开始这么做了,而且直到今天你还在做。这就是为什么这个时态会带出一种“时间跨度”或“持续进行”的感觉。
The phrase “take care of” means to look after someone or to handle something. It’s not only emotional — it can also mean doing practical things, like I take care of the bills or I take care of my parents.
短语 “take care of” 的意思是“照顾某人”或“处理某件事”。它不只是情感上的关心,也可以指现实事务上的处理,比如:I take care of the bills(我负责处理账单),或者 I take care of my parents(我照顾父母)。
We also see “be surrounded by people.” This is a passive structure, and the word by shows the source of the action — it means many people are around you. So literally it means “you’re in the middle of people,” but emotionally, it says you can feel invisible even when you’re not alone.
这里还有一句 “be surrounded by people”。这是一个被动结构,而 by 用来提示“动作来源”,意思是“你被很多人围在中间”。从字面上看,它就是“你在一群人之中”;但从情绪层面,它表达的是:即使你并不孤单,你仍然可能感觉自己像透明人一样、没有被看见。
Paragraph 2 — Holding It All Together
I used to believe that strength meant never falling apart. So I kept showing up, smiling, and fixing things before they could break. I was so busy keeping everything together that I didn’t notice how quietly my own world was falling apart. There’s a kind of silence that grows inside you when you stop asking for help — a silence that looks calm from the outside, but feels heavy from within.
我曾经以为,坚强就是永远不能崩溃。
所以我不断出现、微笑,在事情坏掉之前就先把它修好。
我忙着维持一切,却没发现自己的世界正一点一点瓦解。
有一种沉默,当你停止寻求帮助时,会在心里慢慢蔓延——外表看似平静,内在却沉重得快要透不过气。
Grammar & Idiom Box.
◆ used to believe → 过去式,表示「曾经相信」但现在已改变。
◆ keeping everything together = 心理状态惯用语,意思是「撑住、不崩溃」。
◆ was falling apart → 过去进行式,强调「当时」处于崩溃过程。
* 如果是崩溃状态从过去持续到现在,要用 I have been falling apart lately.
* 如果是即时崩溃状态,则用: I am falling apart right now.
◆ from the outside / from within → 对比外在与内在感受。
文法解析,
In Paragraph 2, Holding It All Together, the phrase “used to believe” means something was true in the past, but not anymore. It’s often used to show growth or change — for example, I used to believe being strong meant never crying.
在第二段《Holding It All Together》里,短语 “used to believe” 的意思是:过去曾经相信某件事,但现在不再这样认为了。它很常用来表达成长或变化,比如:I used to believe being strong meant never crying(我曾经以为坚强就是永远不哭)。
Then we have “keeping everything together.” This is a psychological idiom, not physical. It means trying to stay calm and not break down. When someone says, “I’m just keeping it together,” it really means, “I’m trying not to fall apart.”
接着是 “keeping everything together”。这不是字面意义上的“把东西拼在一起”,而是一个心理状态的惯用表达,意思是“努力撑住、保持镇定、不让自己崩溃”。当一个人说 “I’m just keeping it together”,真正想表达的是:“我在努力不让自己垮掉。”
Next, “was falling apart.” That’s the past continuous tense, which describes something happening over a period of time in the past — like you were in the middle of breaking down back then. If the same feeling continues until now, you would say “I’ve been falling apart lately.” If it’s happening right now, you’d say “I’m falling apart right now.”
然后是 “was falling apart”。这是过去进行时,用来描述:某件事在过去的一段时间里持续发生——比如你当时正处于“逐渐崩溃”的过程里。如果这种崩溃感一直延续到现在,你会说 “I’ve been falling apart lately”(我最近一直在崩溃)。如果它就是此刻正在发生,你会说 “I’m falling apart right now”(我现在真的撑不住了)。
And finally, “from the outside” and “from within.” These two phrases contrast what people can see on the surface and what’s really happening inside of you.
最后是 “from the outside” 和 “from within”。这两个短语用来做对比:外表别人看得到的样子,和你内在真实正在发生的感受。
Paragraph 3 — The Pause
These days, I’m learning to slow down — to let silence make space for what I’ve been avoiding. It’s uncomfortable at first. When you stop running, all the feelings you’ve pushed aside finally catch up. Sometimes it feels like standing in a messy room you’ve ignored for years — you don’t even know where to begin. But little by little, I’ve realized that facing the mess is how you start cleaning it.
这些日子,我在学着慢下来——让寂静替我腾出空间,容纳那些我一直逃避的感受。
一开始很不自在。当你不再奔跑,所有被推开的情绪会一一追上来。
那感觉就像站在一个多年未整理的房间里——乱到不知从哪里开始。
但我慢慢发现,面对混乱本身,就是清理的开始。
Grammar & Idiom Box.
◆ I’m learning to slow down → 现在进行式表「正在学习的过程」。
◆ what I’ve been avoiding → 现在完成式,表示「经验得出的体悟」。
◆ make space for → 惯用搭配「给予心理空间」。
◆ catch up → 比喻「情绪追上来」。
◆ little by little → 一点一点地。
文法解析,
In Paragraph 3, The Pause, the line “I’m learning to slow down” uses the present continuous tense. It doesn’t just mean “I’m studying.” It means “I’m in the process of learning how to change.” So this tense often describes a personal transformation.
在第三段《The Pause》里,这句 “I’m learning to slow down” 用的是现在进行时。它不只是“我在学习”那种课堂式的意思,而是“我正在经历一个学习改变的过程”。所以现在进行时在这里更像是在描述一种个人转变:你正在练习、正在调整、正在变得不一样。
Then, “what I’ve been avoiding.” This is present perfect, which connects past and present — it means “the things I’ve avoided until now.” You’re finally facing them.
接着是 “what I’ve been avoiding”。这里是现在完成时,用来连接过去和现在,意思是“直到现在为止,我一直在逃避的那些东西”。而现在,你终于开始正面面对它们。
The phrase “make space for” means to give room, especially emotional or mental room, for something new to enter your life.
短语 “make space for” 的意思是“腾出空间”,尤其是情绪上或心理上的空间,让新的东西进入你的生活。
“Catch up” here doesn’t mean “run faster.” It means “your feelings finally reach you.” And “little by little” means “bit by bit” — it shows slow but real progress.
这里的 “catch up” 不是“跑得更快”的意思,而是比喻:你一直推开的情绪,最终还是追上了你。“little by little” 的意思是“一点一点地”,它强调的是缓慢但真实的进展。
Paragraph 4 — The Gentle Realization
I’ve realized that healing isn’t about forgetting what happened. It’s about learning how to live with the part of you that got hurt — to see it, to listen to it, and to stop trying to erase it. For a long time, I thought “moving on” meant pretending it didn’t matter. Now I see that moving on simply means moving with it — carrying your story with kindness instead of shame.
我明白了,疗愈并不是要忘记曾发生的事,而是学会与那个受伤的自己共存——看见它,倾听它,不再试着抹去它。
我曾以为「走出来」的意思,是假装那不重要。现在我知道,真正的走出来,是带着那段故事继续走,用温柔而非羞愧去拥有它。
Grammar & Idiom Box.
◆ I’ve realized → 现在完成式:表示至今的体悟。
◆ carry your story with kindness instead of shame → 用温柔而非羞愧去面对自己的故事。
文法解析,
In Paragraph 4, The Gentle Realization, we have “I’ve realized.” This is present perfect again — a good way to express reflection or insight. It means “I’ve come to understand this over time.”
在第四段《The Gentle Realization》里,我们看到 “I’ve realized”。这又是现在完成时,是表达反思或体悟非常常用的方式。它的感觉不是“我突然明白了”,而更像是“我经过一段时间,慢慢理解到这一点”。
Then, “healing isn’t about forgetting what happened.” Here, about is followed by a verb in -ing form — that’s called a gerund. It turns the action into an idea, so “healing is about learning.”
然后是这句 “healing isn’t about forgetting what happened”。这里的 about 后面接动词-ing,这种用法叫动名词(gerund)。它会把一个动作变成一个“概念”,所以你可以说 “healing is about learning”(疗愈的重点在于学习),把“学习”当作一个抽象的方向来讲。
Finally, “carry your story with kindness instead of shame.” It’s a metaphor. It means you don’t erase your past — you carry it kindly. The word carry shows you still hold your story, but the attitude — with kindness — shows you accept it without guilt or blame.
最后是 “carry your story with kindness instead of shame”。这是一种隐喻。它的意思不是“抹掉过去”,而是“带着过去继续走”,而且是用温柔的方式带着它。carry 这个词表示:你的故事仍然在,你没有否认它;但 with kindness 表示:你选择用温柔的态度去接纳它,而不是用内疚或自责去对待它。
Nuance Check: Why Tense Matters?
为什么时态这么重要?在表达内心感受时,选错时态可能会让你的情绪「被读薄」了。看看以下三组对比,感受一下「情感温度」的差异:
1. 关于感受 (Feeling)
A. “I felt lonely.” (Past Simple过去式)
语感: 像是在陈述一个事实,「那时候我感到孤单(现在可能没事了)」。语气比较平淡、有距离感。
B. “I have been feeling lonely.” (Present Perfect Continuous现在完成进行)
语感: 这是一种「持续的沉重感」,暗示这份孤单从过去一直蔓延到现在,听起来更需要被关心、更具临场感。
2. 关于努力 (Effort)
A. “I tried to fix it.” (Past Simple过去式)
语感: 听起来像是「我试过了(然后失败了/结束了)」。这是一个已完结的动作。
B. “I have been trying to fix it.” (Present Perfect Continuous现在完成进行时。)
语感: 带有一种「无力感」或「疲惫感」。意思是「我这阵子一直不断地在尝试(但似乎还没解决)」。如果你想表达「心累」,一定要用这个时态。
3. 关于状态 (Identity vs. State)
A. “I am weak.” (Present Simple現在式)
语感: 这是给自己贴标签。「我就是一个软弱的人」,听起来像是永久的人格特质,很难改变。
B. “I am being weak.” (Present Continuous现在进行时。)
语感: 这是描述当下的状态。「我现在表现得有点软弱(但我本质不一定是这样)」。这是一种更温柔、更有转圜余地的说法。
Takeaway:
想表达「这件事过去了」,用 Past Simple 过去式。。
想表达「这件事一直困扰着我」,用 Present Perfect Continuous 现在完成进行时。。
想表达「我暂时的状态」,用 Present Continuous 现在进行时。。
Try Writing Your Story
如果你也有想要分享的「心路历程」,可以练习用以下↓描述你的一个转变:
1. The Old Me (Used to…):
I used to think that ______ (e.g., being busy meant being successful).
2. The Struggle (Have been V-ing…):
But for a long time, I have been feeling ______ (e.g., exhausted / empty).
3. The New Me (I realized / I am learning…):
Now, I am learning to ______ (e.g., slow down and listen to myself).
Vocabulary related to “Inner State”
这篇文章用到许多描述内在状态的精准字汇。除了开心难过,学会这些字,能让你更细腻地表达那些「说不出口的感受」:
1. When you feel heavy (沉重与压抑)
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Fall apart – 崩溃、瓦解
“I held it together at work, but the moment I got home, I fell apart.”
(我在工作时强撑着,但一回到家,整个人就崩溃了。) -
Drained – 被掏空的
“It’s not just physical tiredness; I feel emotionally drained.”
(这不只是身体的累,我觉得情感上被掏空了。) -
Numb – 麻木的
“I was so overwhelmed that I stopped feeling sad. I just became numb.”
(我压力大到不再感到难过,我变得麻木了。) -
Suppress – 压抑 (情绪)
“I’ve been suppressing my anger for years just to keep the peace.”
(为了维持和平,多年来我一直压抑着愤怒。) -
Suffocating – 令人窒息的
“The silence in the room felt suffocating.”
(房间里的沉默让人感到窒息。) -
Invisible – 隐形的 (形容被忽视)
“I’m surrounded by people, yet I feel completely invisible.”
(我被人群包围,却觉得自己像个透明人。)
2. When you start healing (疗愈与转变)
-
Vulnerable – 脆弱的 (正向语意)
“It takes courage to be vulnerable and ask for help.”
(展现脆弱并寻求帮助,是需要勇气的。) -
Embrace – 拥抱、接纳
“I’m learning to embrace my imperfections instead of hiding them.”
(我在学习拥抱我的不完美,而不是隐藏它们。) -
Acknowledge – 承认、正视
“The first step to healing is to acknowledge that you are hurt.”
(疗愈的第一步,是承认你受伤了。) -
Grounded – 踏实的、安稳的
“Taking a walk in nature makes me feel grounded again.”
(在大自然中散步让我重新感到踏实安稳。) -
Release – 释放、放下
“I decided to release the guilt I’ve been carrying.”
(我决定释放那些我一直背负着的罪恶感。) -
Erase – 抹去
“You can’t erase the past, but you can change how you see it.”
(你无法抹去过去,但你可以改变看待它的方式。)
009 My Worst Nighttime Habit 我最糟的睡前习惯…那些滑手机的夜晚
学习流程:Input (理解) → Digest (内化) → Practice (模仿) → Output (表达) Input(听+读):透过文章理解「报复性熬夜 (Revenge Bedtime Procrastination)」背后的心理,学习如何用英文描述「渴望 (Craving)」、「补偿 (Compensation)」与「觉察 (Awareness)」。 Digest(思考+吸收):反思你的晚睡习惯——是因为「错失恐惧 (FOMO)」而滑手机,还是为了找回一点「掌控感 (Control)」?学习用 scroll, declutter, minimalism 等字精准表达。 Practice(模仿+跟读):利用文末的 “Digital Habits” 句型,练习用自然口语描述你的睡前挣扎。 Output(自我表达):使用 State → Do → Feel 模版,试着说出你真正想逃避的是什么,以及你想尝试的小改变。 Main Idea — 本篇核心: 晚睡往往不是因为不想睡,而是因为「情绪没被满足」。 本篇将带你探讨三种典型的晚睡类型:追剧族 (The Binge-Watcher)、过度思考者 (The Overthinker) 与 焦虑学习者 (The Anxious Learner)。 你将学会用英文表达「不知不觉滑手机 (Mindless Scrolling)」、「断舍离 (Decluttering)」以及如何在混乱中找到「平静…
008 [ book ]“The Let Them Theory” – Why Letting Go is Real Strength 书: Let Them 为什么「放手」才是真正的力量
学习流程:Input (理解) → Digest (内化) → Practice (模仿) → Output (表达) Input(听+读):透过文章理解 Mel Robbins 的「Let Them」理论,学习用英文描述「控制欲 (Control)」、「内耗 (Inner Conflict)」与「放手 (Letting Go)」。 Digest(思考+吸收):深入剖析放下过程中的「内心拉锯战 (The Inner Struggle)」。除了懂道理,更要学会描述那种「想管又必须忍住」的纠结心态。 Practice(模仿+跟读):利用文中的 “Real-Life Scenarios”(情境演练),对比「旧思维」与「Let Them 思维」,并学习用更精准的进阶情绪字汇(如 Resentful, Torn, Paralyzed)来表达感受。+文末的 “I can say it like this” 句型,练习用自然口语分享读书心得与个人改变。 Output(自我表达):套用文末的 “One-Minute Book Review Template”,试着用英文分享这本书带给你的启发与改变。 Main Idea — 本篇核心: 真正的力量不是控制一切,而是允许他人做自己。 本篇将带你探讨《The Let Them Theory》的核心观念:Let Them…
007 My Sleep Routine 我的睡眠仪式:如何放下这一天的焦虑
学习流程:Input (理解) → Digest (内化) → Practice (模仿) → Output (表达) Input(听+读):透过文章理解不同年龄层的睡眠变化,学习如何用英文描述「失眠 (Insomnia)」、「浅眠 (Light Sleeper)」与「生理时钟 (Body Clock)」。 Digest(思考+吸收):反思你的夜晚模式——是焦虑地「胡思乱想 (Racing Thoughts)」,还是有规律的「睡前仪式 (Bedtime Ritual)」? Practice(模仿+跟读):利用文末的 “Extended Vocabulary” 与句型,练习用自然的口语描述你的睡眠品质。 Output(自我表达):使用 State → Do → Feel 模版,试着说出你现在的睡眠状态与改善计画。 Main Idea — 本篇核心: 睡眠不只是休息,更是一种生活节奏的体现。 本篇将带你探讨三种典型的睡眠类型:过度思考型 (The Overthinker)、浅眠型 (The Light Sleeper) 与 自律放松型 (The Calm One)。 你将学会用英文表达细致的感受,如「昏昏欲睡 (Drowsy)」、「精神饱满 (Refreshed)」以及如何在压力中找到「深层休息 (Deep Rest)」。 点选左上角按钮可以切换文字全英…
006 Weekends: Rest or Catch-up? 周末是用来休息,还是用来追进度的?
学习流程:Input (理解) → Digest (内化) → Practice (模仿) → Output (表达) Input(听+读):透过文章理解「休息」的不同定义,学习如何用英文描述「补进度 (Catch-up)」与「真正的休息 (Rest)」。 Digest(思考+吸收):反思你的周末模式——是焦虑地工作延伸,还是渴望社交的能量?学习用 recharge, crave, solitude 等字精准表达感受。 Practice(模仿+跟读):利用文末的 “I can say it like this” 句型,练习用自然口语描述你的周末状态。 Output(自我表达):使用 State → Do → Feel 模版,试着说出你理想中的周末是什么样子。 Main Idea — 本篇核心: 周末不仅是两天假期,更是一种生活心态的体现。 本篇将带你探讨三种典型的周末模式:工作狂 (The Work-Mode Weekender)、社交型 (The Social Butterfly) 与 家庭型 (The Family Anchor)。 你将学会用英文表达「内疚感 (Guilt)」、「连结感 (Connection)」以及如何在忙碌中找到「存在感 (Presence)」。…
005 [ Book ] Have you heard of the book Atomic Habits by James Clear? 书《原子习惯》细微改变带来巨大差异
学习流程:Input (理解) → Digest (内化) → Practice (模仿) → Output (表达)
- Input(听+读):聆听音档,搭配悬浮提示理解“习惯养成”相关的核心单字与语调。
- Digest(思考+吸收):理解书中“身份认同”与“环境设计”的逻辑,对照自己的生活经验。
- Practice(模仿+跟读):利用文末的 Shadowing 句型,练习用英文描述你的改变计划。
- Output(自我表达):使用 State → Feel → Do 模版,说出你目前想建立的一个微习惯。
Main Idea — 本篇核心:[Book] Atomic Habits by James Clear
本篇介紹畅销书《原子习惯》的关键智慧:真正的改变不在于宏大的目标,而在于细微、持续的行动累积。你将学会用英文表达 “身份转变 (Identity Shift)”、“复利效应 (Compound Effect)” 以及 “环境设计 (Environment Design)” 等抽象概念。
Practical Application — 实践应用:
学会如何用英文描述具体的行为改变策略。我们将书中提出的“行为改变四大法则”应用到生活场景(如:戒掉手机成瘾、养成听 Podcast 习惯),让你能用道地的英文制定并分享你的自我成长计划。
I can say it like this
提供不同情境下的英文句子,让你挑选与自己最相似的表达,反复跟读(shadowing),再转化成属于自己的语言。
例如:Building New Habits, Breaking Old Habits, Identity Shift, Mindset & Growth
State → Feel → Do 练习:
根据不同情境组合自己的句子,从每栏中各选一句或两句,练习表达你的「状态 → 感受 → 行动」。
你将学会在谈论学习、工作或生活规律时,用更自然、有层次的英文表达持续与进步的概念。
点选左上角按钮可以切换文字全英or双语
Hi everyone, welcome to the “One Book a Day” segment.
Today I’m going to share with you a highly recommended bestseller — Atomic Habits by James Clear.
He’s an American author who studies habit formation and behavior change.
Since its release, this book has been a huge success, even topping The New York Times bestseller list, and inspiring millions to value the power of small habits.
大家好,歡迎來到「One Book a Day」单元。
今天要跟你分享的书是非常多人推崇的畅销书——《原子习惯》(Atomic Habits),作者是 James Clear。
他是一位美国作家,专门研究习惯养成与行为改变。
这本书出版后就一路热销,甚至登上《纽约时报》的畅销榜,影响了很多人开始重视小习惯的力量。
So, what’s the core idea of this book?
It’s simple: habits don’t come from massive change, but from the accumulation of tiny daily actions.
Clear puts it beautifully: “Habits are the compound interest of self-improvement.”
Just like money grows through compound interest, small consistent actions compound into major transformation over time.
那这本书最核心的观念是什么呢?其实很简单:习惯不是靠大刀阔斧的改变,而是从每天非常微小的行为累积而成的。
Clear 用一句话形容得很棒:习惯是「自我提升的复利」。
就像钱的复利一样,一点点持续的累积,长期下来会变成巨大的改变。
Another classic quote from the book is:
“You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems.”
In other words, it’s not grand goals that determine success — it’s the systems and routines behind them.
Goals define direction; systems sustain progress.
书里还有一句很经典的话:
「You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems.」
意思是,我们不会因为设定了多么宏大的目标就突然提升,真正决定我们能走多远的,其实是我们的系统与日常流程。
换句话说,目标只是结果,而系统才是让我们每天能持续走下去的方式。
How do we build better habits?
Clear suggests that real behavior change starts with identity change.
Instead of asking “What do I want to do?”, ask “Who do I want to be?”
Behavior reflects identity — your actions mirror how you see yourself.
那怎么样建立好的习惯呢?书中有一个突破性的观点:改变行为,先要改变「身份认同」。
不是问「我要做什么」,而是问「我是谁」。
因为行为其实是身份的反映——你现在的行动,都是基于你对自己的认知。
Clear offers two practical steps:
First, decide who you want to become.
Second, prove it to yourself with small wins.
For example, instead of saying “I’m trying to memorize English words,” I say “I’m someone who expresses ideas in English.”
That small identity shift changes how I act — I naturally choose phrases and topics that help me express thoughts, not just memorize vocabulary.
书里提出两个实用步骤:
第一,先决定你希望成为什么样的人;
第二,用小小的胜利不断去证明,你就是这样的人。
比如我不再告诉自己「我要努力背英文单字」,而是把身份调整成:「我是那个可以用英文表达想法的人」。
这样一来,我自然会去挑选能表达观点的句子和主题,而不是陷在死背单字里。
Another underrated point is environment design.
Habits don’t rely on willpower, but on your surroundings.
For example, if you want to build a running habit, put your running shoes beside your bed.
Seeing them becomes a cue — a gentle reminder that triggers action.
The environment silently shapes what’s easy or hard to do.
另外一个被低估的重点是「环境设计」。
作者提醒我们:习惯改变不只是靠意志力,而是靠环境。
举个例子:想培养跑步习惯?就把跑鞋放在床边,起床一眼看到,它就是一个提示,让你自然想去跑步。
环境其实是一股无形的力量,能让好习惯更容易发生、坏习惯更不容易发生。
Progress is often invisible.
You may not see results in the short term — that’s why many people quit halfway.
Clear reminds us that the power of habits takes patience; it only becomes visible over time.
不过,进步很多时候是看不见的。短期内你可能感受不到差别,这也是很多人中途放弃的原因。
Clear 一再提醒,习惯的力量需要耐心,它是长期才会显现的。
Many readers say the book feels realistic — small habits truly accumulate power, unlike drastic changes that easily fall apart.
Others find it a bit idealistic, because when life gets stressful, rules alone may not hold up.
Some also note cultural differences — these principles work well in individualistic societies but may need adjustment in collective ones.
很多读者说,小习惯累积的力量真的很真实,不像大改革那样容易崩盘。
也有人批评,这本书有点理想化,因为在现实生活中遇到压力或情绪崩溃时,光靠几条法则其实不一定能坚持。
还有人提醒,这本书的方法在不同文化里可能要调整,在西方个人主义社会很好应用,但在华语或集体文化社会,有时要搭配群体习惯的设计才会奏效。
Before wrapping up, let’s review Clear’s Four Laws of Behavior Change — the core framework for building good habits and breaking bad ones.
They are: Make it obvious, Make it attractive, Make it easy, and Make it satisfying.
在结尾之前,我想特别分享书中提出的「行为改变四大法则」:让提示显而易见、让习惯变得有吸引力、让执行变得简单、让结果令人满足。
Example 1: Quitting online shopping
- Make it obvious — remove the cues. Log out of shopping accounts, delete app shortcuts, move apps to the last page. Put a card on your desk that says “Do I really need this, or am I just bored?”
- Make it attractive — pair the alternative with pleasure. Listen to your favorite music or podcast when you feel like shopping.
- Make it easy — use ad blockers or screen-time limiters. Replace shopping with something simple, like reading one page of a book.
- Make it satisfying — track your “no-shopping” days and visualize how much money you’ve saved.
范例一:改掉「爱逛购物网站」的习惯
– 让提示显而易见:删掉让你想打开购物网站的提示,注销账号、移除快捷图示、把 APP 移到最后一页。
– 让习惯变得有吸引力:想购物时改听喜欢的音乐或 Podcast,每次成功不逛就给自己一个小奖励。
– 让执行变得简单:使用挡广告或限时插件,让替代行为简单到只要翻一页书。
– 让结果令人满足:记录没购物的天数,并可视化省下的金额,例如「这周没买东西=多一杯咖啡钱」。
Example 2: No phone before bed
- Make it obvious — set a reminder like “Time to rest, not scroll.” Leave your phone outside your bedroom and keep a book by your bed.
- Make it attractive — replace scrolling with something relaxing, like soft music or an English podcast.
- Make it easy — enable night mode or app locks automatically; read one page before bed.
- Make it satisfying — note in the morning: “I feel more rested today.” Track your progress and reward yourself after a week.
范例二:睡前不滑手机
– 让提示显而易见:设定提醒「该休息,不该滑手机」,睡前把手机放在房间外,只留书在床边。
– 让替代行为有吸引力:改听轻音乐或英文 Podcast,搭配柔光与香氛,让「不滑手机」变成享受。
– 让行动变简单:设定夜间模式或自动锁机。书放枕边,拿起就能看一页。
– 让结果有回馈:早上起床精神变好时写下「今天睡得更好」,连续七天给自己小奖励。
Now, how do we apply this to English learning?
那如果套用在英文学习呢?
Example: Listen to an English Podcast Every Day
- Make it obvious — when the alarm goes off, see the podcast app right on your phone screen.
- Make it attractive — listen while cooking your favorite breakfast.
- Make it easy — start with just five minutes; don’t give yourself too much pressure.
- Make it satisfying — after finishing an episode, tick it off and tell yourself one positive line.
范例:每天听英文 Podcast
– 让提示显而易见:闹钟响起后,立刻看到手机上的 Podcast App。
– 让习惯变得有吸引力:一边听,一边做你最喜欢的早餐。
– 让执行变得简单:从 5 分钟开始,不要给自己太大压力。
– 让结果令人满足:听完一集就打勾,并给自己一句正向肯定。
When you apply these laws, “listening to English” stops feeling like a task and naturally becomes part of your daily life.
Over time, these small acts compound into huge progress.
当你把「听英文 Podcast」这件事套进四大法则,它就不再是「我要努力学英文」,而会自然而然成为生活的一部分。久而久之,这些小小的坚持,会像复利一样累积,带来巨大的改变。
Based on the author’s principles, I’ve already replaced my habits of random scrolling and useless shopping with a new one — learning English.
I unfollowed most lifestyle creators on Xiaohongshu and now follow bloggers who share English and economy content instead.
I also replaced my bedtime scrolling habit with reading English books.
Sometimes, as I read, I even fall asleep halfway — but that’s a good sign!
基于作者提出的法则,我已经把「无意义滑手机」和「乱买没用东西」的习惯,
改成「学英文」的习惯。
我把小红书里追踪的生活类博主全部移除,改追踪分享英文与经济内容的账号。
睡前也不再滑手机,而是阅读英文原文书,有时候看着看着就想睡了,
至少这是个健康的副作用!
To sum up, Atomic Habits stands out because it’s not just theory — it’s a practical methodology you can use right away.
The original English version uses clear and simple vocabulary, making it great for learners to improve language sense.
Whether it’s changing health habits, improving work efficiency, or learning English, this system really works.
What truly matters isn’t how big your goal is, but whether you can stick to the small steps every day.
Remember: small habits create compound effects.
Start today — one tiny action can build the foundation for your future self.
总结一下,《原子习惯》最有价值的地方是,它不只是理论,而是能直接用在生活中的方法论。
原文书单字不艰涩,非常适合当作提升英文语感的入门书。
无论是改变健康习惯、提升工作效率,还是学英文,这套系统都能发挥作用。
真正重要的不是目标有多大,而是每天的小步骤能不能坚持下去。
记住:小习惯会创造复利效应。从今天开始,一个小小的行动,就能为未来的自己打下基础。
如果你有兴趣阅读这本书…
If you’re interested in reading this book, it’s Atomic Habits by James Clear.
The writing style is clear, practical, and full of real-life examples. It’s written in a neutral tone — simple, but not shallow. To enjoy the book in English, you’ll need around six to eight thousand words of vocabulary.
It includes some psychology and academic terms like identity, consistency, compound, and reinforcement.
In the U.S. school system, this book would be suitable for high school students — grades nine to twelve.
Although it’s written for the general public, it actually helps you strengthen three key ways of thinking in English:
logical structure, psychological vocabulary, and system thinking.
Reading the original version not only gives you useful ideas about self-growth,
but also helps you develop clearer and more organized English thinking.
《Atomic Habits》 by James Clear
这本书的文字风格清晰、实用、充满例子,语气中性、内容不艰涩。
对英文读者而言,大约拥有 6,000–8,000 字汇量(包含一些心理学与学术词汇,如 identity、consistency、compound、reinforcement)就能轻松阅读。
若以美国学制来看,大约是高中生(9–12 年级)程度即可理解。
这本书虽然是写给大众市场的,但它能帮助你加强以下三种英文思维能力:
– 逻辑结构(logical structure)
– 心理学词汇(psychology vocabulary)
– 系统思考(system thinking)
阅读原文不仅能吸收实用的自我成长概念,也能让你的英文更有结构与思辨力。
惯用搭配(Collocations) – 关于设定目标的句子
build a habit → 养成习惯
I’m trying to build a habit of drinking more water every morning.
(我正在养成每天早上多喝水的习惯。)
stick to a routine → 坚持日常规律
She sticks to a morning workout routine, no matter how busy she is.
(她再忙也会坚持早晨运动的规律。)
set a goal → 设定目标
I set a goal to read one book every month.
(我设定了一个目标,每个月读一本书。)
break it down → 拆解成小部分
If the task feels overwhelming, break it down into smaller steps.
(如果任务让人压力太大,就把它拆成小步骤。)
give yourself credit → 给自己正向肯定
Even if you only study for 10 minutes, give yourself credit for showing up.
(就算你只学了10分钟,也要肯定自己有做到。)
compound growth → 复利式成长
Learning a new skill daily leads to compound growth over time.
(每天学一点新技能,长期下来会有复利式成长。)
I can say it like this — 用英文这样说
提供不同情境下的英文句子,讓你挑選與自己最相似的表達,反覆跟讀(shadowing),再轉化成屬於自己的語言。
Building New Habits — 建立新習慣
I’m trying to build better habits, not by doing more, but by doing small things more consistently.
我在练习建立更好的习惯,不是做更多,而是持续做小事。
I start small but stay steady — one page, one push-up, one podcast at a time.
我从小处开始,但保持稳定——一次读一页、做一个俯卧撑、听一个 Podcast。
I no longer chase motivation; I design my environment to make action easier.
我不再追求动力,而是通过调整环境让行动变得更容易。
My goal is not perfection — it’s progress that feels natural.
我的目标不是完美,而是让进步变得自然。
Every time I repeat an action, I’m casting a vote for the person I want to become.
每一次重复的行为,都是在为「我想成为的人」投一票。
Breaking Old Habits — 改掉舊習慣
I used to open shopping apps whenever I felt bored. Now I open my notebook instead.
我以前一无聊就会打开购物 App,现在我改成打开笔记本。
I’ve learned to replace scrolling with something slower — like reading or stretching.
我学会用更慢的事物取代滑手机,比如阅读或伸展。
When I remove the cue, the craving fades too.
当我移除诱因,欲望也会随之减弱。
I don’t fight my bad habits; I outsmart them by changing the situation.
我不跟坏习惯对抗,而是通过改变情境来智取。
Instead of saying “I can’t,” I say “I don’t” — it gives me power over the choice.
我不再说「我不能」,而说「我不这样做」——那让我更有掌控感。
Identity Shift — 身分轉變與自我定義
Changing habits isn’t about goals — it’s about systems that support who I want to be.
改变习惯不是为了目标,而是为了建立支持我想成为的人的系统。
I’m not trying to learn English — I’m becoming a person who thinks and expresses in English.
我不只是想学英语,而是想成为能用英语思考与表达的人。
I’m becoming the kind of person who keeps promises to myself.
我正在成为一个能对自己守信的人。
I no longer measure success by speed, but by consistency.
我不再用速度衡量成功,而是用持续性。
Every small action is proof of who I already am becoming.
每个小行动,都是我正在成为那个人的证据。
Mindset & Growth — 心態與成長
Each small win reminds me that progress takes patience.
每个小小的成功都提醒我,成长需要耐心。
I’ve learned that tiny changes compound into something meaningful over time.
我学会了,微小的改变会随着时间累积成有意义的成果。
Even when results are invisible, I remind myself: the habit is working silently.
即使成果暂时看不见,我也提醒自己:习惯正在默默发挥作用。
Failure isn’t the opposite of progress — it’s feedback for adjustment.
失败不是进步的反面,而是调整的回馈。
Real growth happens quietly, long before anyone notices.
真正的成长总是在无人察觉之前悄悄发生。
Practice Tip — 練習建議
从每个分类中挑选 2–3 句最贴近你生活的句子,先跟读音档(shadowing),再尝试改写成你的版本。
例如:
I’m trying to build better habits in my English learning — by studying less, but more regularly.
我在练习建立更好的英语学习习惯——学得少一点,但更有规律。
State → Feel → Do 練習
以下句型讓你能根據不同情境組合自己的句子。
從每欄中各選一句或兩句,練習表達你的「狀態 → 感受 → 行動」。
先理解句意,再跟讀音檔,最後嘗試改寫成屬於你的版本。
State — 我現在的狀態
I’m trying to build a new habit, but I keep forgetting.
我正在尝试建立一个新习惯,但总是忘记。
I’m trying to stay consistent, but I get distracted easily.
我努力想保持规律,但很容易分心。
I want to start small, but I tend to overthink before I begin.
我想从小地方开始,但常常在开始前想太多。
I plan to practice English every day, but sometimes I lose track.
我计划每天练习英语,但有时就忘了。
I’ve made a plan to wake up early, but I often hit snooze and fall back asleep.
我制定了早起计划,但常常按掉闹钟又睡回去。
I’m trying to change my routine, but life keeps getting in the way.
我想调整生活作息,但总是被现实打断。
I’m trying to build a new habit of listening to English, but I forget to open the app.
我想养成听英语的习惯,但常常忘记打开应用程式。
Feel — 我的感受
It makes me frustrated because I want to be consistent.
这让我感到沮丧,因为我想保持一致。
It makes me disappointed because I know I can do better.
这让我有点失望,因为我知道自己能做得更好。
It makes me anxious when I see no quick progress.
当看不到进步时,我会感到焦虑。
I feel a bit guilty because I promised myself I’d keep going.
我有点愧疚,因为我答应过自己要坚持。
I feel tired, but I also know this is part of the process.
我感到有点累,但我也知道这就是过程的一部分。
It actually motivates me to try again instead of giving up.
反而这激励我不要放弃,而是再试一次。
I feel more aware of my habits now — at least I notice the pattern.
我现在对自己的习惯更有觉察——至少我开始看见规律。
Do — 我決定採取的行動
I’ll make it obvious by leaving a note on my desk as a reminder.
我会把提示写在桌上,让它显眼提醒自己。
I’ll make it easy by preparing what I need the night before.
我会提前准备好需要的东西,让执行变得容易。
I’ll make it attractive by pairing it with music or coffee I like.
我会搭配喜欢的音乐或咖啡,让习惯更有吸引力。
I’ll make it satisfying by checking it off every time I do it.
我会在每次完成后打勾,让成就感变成动力。
I’ll move my phone to another room so I can focus better.
我会把手机放到另一个房间,让自己更专注。
I’ll start with just five minutes — no pressure, just presence.
我先从五分钟开始——不求完美,只求出现。
I’ll remind myself that consistency matters more than perfection.
我会提醒自己,持续比完美更重要。
Practice Tip — 練習建議
從每一欄中各選一句,組合成你的 State → Feel → Do。
反覆跟讀音檔,練習自然語氣與節奏,並改寫成符合你生活的版本。
例如:
State: I’m trying to build a new habit of reading, but I keep forgetting.
Feel: It makes me frustrated because I want to stay consistent.
Do: I’ll make it easy by reading one page before bed.
状态:我正在建立阅读习惯,但总是忘记。
感受:这让我感到沮丧,因为我想保持规律。
行动:我会让它更简单,睡前读一页书就好。
或:
State: I plan to practice English every day, but I get distracted easily.
Feel: I feel a bit guilty because I promised myself I’d keep going.
Do: I’ll prepare my notebook and open the app right after breakfast.
状态:我计划每天练习英语,但很容易分心。
感受:我有点愧疚,因为我答应过自己要持续。
行动:我会在早餐后马上准备笔记本并打开学习应用。
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